Roomate Fight: A theraputic posting

So Brian comes home and tells me he'd like me to turn on the AC at night. I say something like, "I will try to remember, but I have a lot of things I need to remember right now so I may forget to do it. I don't want to be harassed about it and told that it's something I need to remember. I don't want a note taped on it reminding me. I remembered to turn the air on the bathroom and lock the door, I don't need any notes."

The note he put on the door two weeks ago made me furious. He said it was for the new roommate Miriam. The last two male roommates didn't get notes. I'm like, "Why didn't you tell me, I thought you wrote that for me. I don't think she needs a note. If you have a problem you should just tell me. I hate these notes. They are so passive aggressive and hostile."

Brian insists that they are to help me remember. I'm like, "You are not listening to me, they are very demeaning. It's not about helping anyone remember. I can't teach you social skills. You don't want to listen to me." He freakin' slams the door of his room mid-sentence. Why try communicating with someone who is so damn arrogant and impossible to talk to? I care far more about him than he does about me. I am better off when I just ignore him and not try to help him.